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RE: To Spank Or Not To Spank - One Stop Thread - 4/12/2010 6:36:40 PM
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Brandy
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Erin, I don't think it's the standing part. It's the arm behind the back which is a control trechnique.
I never recieved across the knee spanks. I don't admin her very few spanks across the knee.
I think the sitting down part is referring to thinking it through for an older child and talking to them about it.
Right now her spanks are "we do NOT xyz" and a swat on her diapered bum. End of story. If I took time to sit her down and explain "you are getting spanked because you chose to xyz" and then spank, it would be lost on her at this age.
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RE: To Spank Or Not To Spank - One Stop Thread - 4/12/2010 6:59:21 PM
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When she can understand it we will talk more about it.
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RE: To Spank Or Not To Spank - One Stop Thread - 4/12/2010 8:50:02 PM
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We use the word appropriate alot and acceptable. She gets those.
Won't be changing how we spank, as far as discussing it, any time soon. I actually hope to curb the current behaviors and not have to spank at all.
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RE: To Spank Or Not To Spank - One Stop Thread - 4/13/2010 7:51:43 AM
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W.O.F.
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It's not a real spanking if the kid is standing up? I agree with the out of control part, but I didn't know there was a singular position for proper spanking.
ETA: I'll admit, with my toddler, spankings are usually administered quickly, without a bare amount of discussion, and he's typically standing.
No...that is not what I meant anyway. You can spank properly with a child standing up...but they always show a picture of a parent who is whacking their kid in a manner which implies out of control parent rather than a planned consequence......
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RE: To Spank Or Not To Spank - One Stop Thread - 4/13/2010 7:55:52 AM
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W.O.F.
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We use the word appropriate alot and acceptable. She gets those.
Won't be changing how we spank, as far as discussing it, any time soon. I actually hope to curb the current behaviors and not have to spank at all.
Which is the whole point behind disciplining our children....so that we do NOT have to punish in any fashion....
I just think too many times (not you Brandy...) that people think that those of us who spank just do it...that there is no other training involved...that we take it lightly.
I tend to take it very seriously, and I know that probably most everyone here does as well...we don't LIKE to spank..therefore we train/curb, etc in order to prevent as many spankings as possible...and to be honest...I hate time outs...so with my one child that time outs were the punishment that worked...I did the same thing...we worked to prevent the negative consequence stuff.....which is the whole point of discipline.....
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Just as something to consider. 
